We live heady days in our 20s, feeling invincible, learning about ourselves and having fun exploring who we are and what our identity is.

If you're like I was, doing different looks, flirting with all the boys, being best friends with a cool group of girls and always feeling like the daggiest of the lot.

Photographer: Michal Vrba | Source: Unsplash

But then you hit your late 20s, you have a career, life partner, for many there's kids, plus a mortgage to worry about and fun seems to fade from life.

Then all of a sudden you’re in your 40s and everything gets second-guessed, risk mitigated, reviewed and life is SERIOUS.

Ughhhhh

I stepped back into my rave world last night.

The space where it was about the music, PLUR (Peace, Love, Unity, Respect) being in your body dancing and not having a care in the world.

One of my original rave dresses ❤️

It was about appreciating those around you and being in joy in the moment.

Now my days of needing chemical assistance to enjoy the night are over and I look after myself well these days. I’m fit enough to dance without racking up three lines of speed but it was fascinating to feel myself step back into the Energy of those times.

It's a unique vibration that you do not find anywhere else.

Photographer: Tyler Nix | Source: Unsplash

So here’s my life reminders from going to old-school rave.

  • Stay in the moment as the moment is beautiful, when you decide that it is.
  • Give people the benefit of the doubt! If they come to say hi don’t automatically suspect they have an ulterior motive, they're just saying hello. Remember to see people as people not, potential threats.
  • Self expression is the most wonderful thing so how are you expressing your bliss? Go do some expressing!
  • Be open to new things like a remix of old favorite tracks. Things change and being open is how you grow stop shutting down. Stay open to stay fun!
  • Dance like no one is watching, even though with your killer moves EVERY BODY is watching!
  • Be kind!

The older you get the most serious to get and I realized as a 45-year-old single woman life being way too fucking serious the last 10 years

It coincides with when I started my business the seriousness.

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Photographer: Ruthson Zimmerman | Source: Unsplash

This I must be a grown-up now" kind of thinking and contraction in bubbly behaviour to serious energy.

And the older we get the more we filter through risk and consequence.

Here’s what I know now to be different, to what I believed at the start of my business life.

  • There’s always time to filter your experience through the eyes of fun and playfulness.
  • It doesn't matter how old you are, or the situation, be playful.
  • Let there be fun.

Because when you do that everything changes.

If you want to work with me on bringing in better internal self talk which then allows the space for a lighter and more "fun" approach to life, book a call in here're. Twenty minutes on me. Book here: I want more FUN!