It’s important to honour your feelings at this time and it’s important to keep aiming for high vibration.
My goal is to be a leader around helping people manage in times of anxiety of stress, worry.
If you’re high functioning, depressed personality type, I’m here to help and support you.
With everything that’s going on. I’m seeing two kinds of people, either falling apart or the people that are being strong. I consider myself quite a strong person, but I have to be honest with you, with my online friends last night, I had a little cry. I see people’s pain, people’s worry showing up online and I feel it. I have my mother, family, and friends who are immune-compromised.
Right now having limited contact with them, especially now with Victoria in lockdown, and my mother living interstate. It’s quite a stressful situation because you don’t know when you’re going to see them again if you know if you’re going to be healthy to be able to go and see them.
Going into lockdown is obviously the right thing to do, and maintaining social distancing, but it still sucks and it still triggers a lot of anxiety. Not just for me, but I know for a lot of people out there.
I really wanted to talk about the language we are using in these times. Does lockdown have to be an ongoing struggle?
This was me two nights ago.
I sat out on the back step and I allowed myself to feel the feelings of the situation. I actually quit smoking 10 years ago, and it’s not a habit I’m wanting to take up again. But yesterday, I gave myself permission last night.
And I did actually sit there and I did think to myself, what if everything is not okay? I don’t know if anyone else reading this is feeling the same as well or has had these thoughts, but it’s natural. It is totally okay to think these thoughts. You aren’t expected to be a high vibe all the time. I think you also need to feel whatever it is you need to feel.
But there needs to be a point where you go, Okay, what do I do now?
What is my next step because staying in the space of anxiety, stress, worry or depression doesn’t actually help you create solutions, it sends to even further down into the mud.
There’s a saying, “what I focus on expands”.
And that is so true because if your brain and you are constantly focused on, this is bad, I’m stressed, I’ve got no way out, your brain will only be able to see that for you.
What I’m really wanting to convey in this, It’s okay to feel how you feel. What we need to do though is make sure that we don’t wallow in it and get stuck in it that, we have a way to reset.
I’ve done a lot of studies and a lot of work around this so I was able to pull myself out of it, after giving myself permission to feel all the feelings of feeling quite vulnerable in my situation. But I also knew that I couldn’t stay in this situation. I made some very big decisions. I took some really practical actions today to offset the anxiety because the anxiety was being triggered by the I don’t know what’s going to happen thoughts. Imagining the worst-case scenario thoughts, and I’m pretty sure we’ve all had these thoughts.
Anxiety is the fear of the unknown.
It’s triggered by the worrying, it’s triggered by the doubt.
So, what to do? Start thinking about what are some really practical tips that I can take in my current situation. Is this you? Do you have a business at the moment that’s not doing so great? What can you innovate in your business to create more income? Are you a renter? What can I do about my cost? Can I go stay with somebody else do, I need to give notice? Can I get in a housemate? Cash flow? Are you hanging onto things that if you stopped, you could release some money and some stress?
I made some really big decisions with COVID kicking in and impacting my own business. And I felt worth sharing. To focus on the belief that I’m going to be okay, that in all of this, I’m going to be okay. For me, it’s my family, my friends, and my clients. They will be supported in this. I will be able to support them. I remind myself that I am a strong woman. I’ve gone through a lot and I’m still here. I have all the evidence in the world to demonstrate that I am a survivor and that I have gotten through this and I will get through everything else that comes along with this.
It may not necessarily come the way that I want it to. But getting stuck on things having to be one way is very limiting. Because then if it can, doesn’t go that way, the anxiety and the stress and everything triggers back in. But the biggest thing is I reminded myself that I’m allowed to be human as well, I’m allowed to have the feelings. I also recognise that sitting in space and wallowing, I gave myself five minutes to have a pity party last night.
Long term, you know, staying in that space doesn’t help, you know, so there’s a spiritual law of cause and effect. I was at the effect the cigarette last night. Everything was happening to me, I had no control, I was disempowered, I stopped, I’ve made bad decisions on what I did with my money, etc, etc, etc.
So, I moved myself back to cause I’m taking radical responsibility for the decisions that I’ve made that have got me into this situation. I’m going to take radical responsibility around creating change and making something different and make sure I’m ascribing to my thoughts the most empowered meaning that I can with my values and my beliefs to everything that is happening around me.
If you are feeling anxiety, stress, concerning worry and it’s free to do, I really want to encourage you to start thinking of different beliefs and focus on embedding those into your mind over the top of the negative.
I’ll be honest here. If this had happened five years ago, I would be in a completely different emotional state. When we do the work and give ourselves permission to feel and then move forward, it’s super powerful. For those of you that are really struggling under the weight and stress and anxiety of everything that’s happening, I see you there, I feel you. 4
I suggest that you feed your soul right now. If you’re strong enough to go within and do the healing work, do so. It’s a really powerful time for you to transform who you are in here. If that’s too much, dedicate yourself to the things that bring you joy.
Now you have a choice to feel better, and to choose consciously how you want to feel and create your results from a cause, not an effect because your results will be so much more positively impactful on your general wellbeing.